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It’s how you play your cards

Jonathan Swain

I’ve heard it said that it’s not important what hand you’re dealt in life, it’s how you play your cards.

According to MSNBC “by any measure, Jonathan Swain, who contracted AIDS as a baby in 1983, isn’t supposed to be here.” But this is not just a story about an AIDS baby who made it. This is a story about a very special human being who still refuses to accept that just because you’re dealt a bad hand doesn’t mean you always have to fold.

It’ll take a little time to read this story, but trust me, it’s worth the investment. I promise you’ll think a whole lot differently about the cards you are holding in your hand right now.

Read more about Jonathan Swain…

A lesson from Job

“You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.” – Above Life’s Turmoil

This principle was not easy for me to accept and I fought it for a long time. As miserable as my life was at the time I learned this concept, I was certain that there was no way that it was due to the thoughts that I had held. There were too many other reasons why things had gone bad – my ex-spouse, the economy, a client who had wronged me, and on and on and on. Since I wasn’t responsible for my “bad luck” then certainly my thoughts had nothing to do with it.

But I was wrong. Like the biblical Job who said, “the thing I feared most has come upon me,” I, too, had thought myself to where I was.

Dr. Walter Doyle Staples, writing in “Think Like a Winner!” says, “I credit one simple concept with getting me started on my journey into self-discovery. After a great deal of study and contemplation, I came to the conclusion that people have in their lives today exactly what they keep telling their mind they want.”

Like Dr. Staples, it was a moment of great illumination for me! The logical side of me said, “if you and you alone can think yourself into such a mess, then surely you and you alone can think yourself out of it.” And that I did. It wasn’t overnight and it wasn’t easy, but it was a sure thing! And by accepting all of the responsibility for where I was at, and all of the responsibility for where I was going, I experienced a tremendous joy and freedom because I knew in my knower that if I got myself into the predicament, I could get myself out.

Of course, I had some great inspiration along the way. And I will always remember Les Brown’s three steps to take during “hard times:”

1. Have Faith (didn’t Paul say, “Faith is the substance of things hoped for…”)

2. Remind yourself: “No matter how hard it is or how hard it gets, I’m going to make it!”

3. Have patience and engage in consistent action.

And that’s worth thinking about.

The vision of Jay Leno and President Clinton

“The vision that you glorify in your mind, the ideal that you enthrone in your heart – this you will build your life by; this you will become.” As A Man Thinketh

Whether you liked his politics or not, much can be learned from the life of former President Clinton. Grolier’s “New Book of Knowledge” reports that as a teenager “Clinton thought of becoming a doctor or a reporter or even a musician. But after a fateful meeting with President John F. Kennedy, while still in high school, he made up his mind to enter politics.” At that moment a vision was born that he would hold onto – that he would glorify in his mind over and over – for the next 30 years, until he himself was elected President at the age of 46.

Jay Leno, who succeeded the venerable Johnny Carson as host of “The Tonight Show,” first envisioned that he would be the host when he was just 22-years-old and unknown and unproven as a comedian, much less as host of a show of such regard, For twenty years he enthroned in his heart an ideal that most people would have thought was “foolish”, “outlandish” and “impossible.”

The ancient writer tells us in Proverbs that “Without a vision, the people perish.” And Thoreau told us that “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation.” No doubt because the masses are without a vision for their lives.

What is your vision for your future, your ideal life? Is it written down? Do you review it and think about it often? Have you “enthroned” it in your heart? Is your life organized around goals and objectives that will ensure your vision is reached?

Wallace D. Wattles, wrote “There is no labor from which most people shrink as they do from that of sustained and consecutive thought; it is the hardest work in the world.” And yet it is the “sustained and consecutive thought” about our vision that is the first and primary labor of achievement.

Thoreau also wrote one of my most favorite passages of all time. And it gives us the best reason there is to stop what you’re doing today and identify the vision for your life. “If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.”

And that’s worth thinking about.

Everything happens for a reason

Here is a great article that appeared in Jeff Keller’s newsletter this month. It bears reading every couple of months because the wisdom is incredible.

Would you like to enjoy more success and have less stress in your life? Do you wish that your daily aggravations had less power over you? Would you appreciate some peace of mind?No, you don’t need to find a genie in a bottle to enjoy these spectacular benefits. What you do need, however, is a belief in one key concept — that everything happens for a reason.When I began speaking before groups more than ten years ago, I often asked the members of my audience, “How many of you believe that everything happens for a reason?” Typically, about 25% of the people would raise their hands. Now, when I ask that same question, anywhere from 50% to 80% of the audience answers in the affirmative.

Whether you already believe that things happen for a purpose, or are unsure about this notion, here are some points to consider to get the maximum results from this principle:

1. Don’t curse your present circumstances … or gripe about the past. When we encounter “negative” or stressful situations in our lives, our immediate reaction is to be outraged, frustrated or depressed. This is the start of a downward spiral in which we fill our minds with gloomy thoughts and generate more negative results.

On the contrary, when you believe there’s a purpose for your difficulties, your state of mind is quite different. You realize that your current situation is serving you in some way, whether it’s a turn in the road or a lesson that you can apply at a later date.

2. This principle is not limited to tragedies and problems.

While it’s true that you can find positive aspects to every setback, the idea that everything happens for a reason applies to positive experiences and “neutral” events as well.

For instance, let’s say that you meet someone at a networking meeting. The person holds no special significance to you and doesn’t seem likely to bring you any business.

What you’re not considering are the possible ways that the two of you might help each other in the future.

3. Being passive is not the answer. Just because there is a “reason” for the events that happen to you doesn’t mean you can achieve your goals by sitting back and waiting for success to occur on its own. It’s still up to you to be proactive and make things happen. That requires energy, creativity and, yes, a lot of effort on your part!

4. Recognize the “two way street.” It’s easy to get caught up with the idea that every person you meet has something to contribute to you. That’s true to some extent. But, don’t overlook the fact that there is something for you to impart to others as well!

And, while there are often ways in which each party contributes to the other, there are many instances where it’s not an equal “give and take.” Thus, there are times in a relationship when you may be serving another person more often than you are receiving from them.

5. You are always being directed toward something “better.”

Have you ever been fired from a job … then moved on to find a better career? Or, have you terminated a personal relationship (or been terminated yourself!) … and then met someone who was a far better partner for you?

In both of these instances, life was pushing you toward something that would bring you even more satisfaction. Of course, in all of these situations, you had the option to close off the improved alternative.

For instance, after being fired, you could have complained about the lack of job opportunities. Or, after the relationship ended, you could have concluded that you are “unlucky in love.” Yet, had you taken these approaches, you would have missed the better situation that was just around the corner.

6. You’ll never be able to explain everything. The notion that “everything happens for a reason” will not answer every question that you have about life! On the contrary, although you’ll find that you are better able to understand certain events, there will still be many mysteries that you can’t explain.

There are no coincidences. When you believe this, you’ll enter a new world of possibility. When a problem occurs, instead of crying, “Why Me?” you’ll look for the lesson you can learn, or the opportunity that is on the horizon.

You’ll realize that it makes no sense to argue that something shouldn’t have happened to you. It did happen …

there’s a reason for it … and, if you’re wise, you’ll use it to your advantage!

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(c) Attitude is Everything

Persistence is a state of mind

“The person of good and lawful purpose cannot fail. It only needs that he daily renew the fire and energy of his fixed resolve, to consummate his object.” – The Mastery of Destiny

It is the great equalizer for all of those reaching for success.

It overcomes lack of education, money, talent, intelligence, looks and all other seeming advantages. President Calvin Coolidge said nothing could take its place.

“Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent.”

I cannot think of one victory I’ve ever had that I won without persistence. For a while I just thought that I had to work harder and longer than anyone else in order to achieve because nothing has ever come easy for me. Then I really looked around and noticed that everyone else was just like me. Every mentor I’ve ever had and every successful person I’ve ever known has their own story of how persistence was the key to their success.

Here’s what Bob Proctor teaches on one of the Universal Laws called the Law of Gender: “This law decrees that all seeds (ideas are spiritual seeds) have a gestation or incubation period before they manifest. In other words, when you choose a goal or build the image in your mind, a definite period of time must elapse before that image manifests in physical results.”

Coming from a family of six generations of farmers I certainly understand the gestation of a seed. In fact, one of my most favorite inspirational examples about persistence is the story of an Asian Bamboo species that even after five years of watering, weeding and fertilizing is barely visible. Then in a span of about six weeks it grows two and a half feet a day to 90 feet and higher. It grows so fast that you can literally “hear” it growing. The question to ask is did the bamboo grow 90 feet in six weeks or did it grow 90 feet in five years?

Obviously it grew 90 feet in five years, for all the time when growth wasn’t visible it was developing a massive root system that would later support it’s magnificent growth.

Can you see where the current circumstances in your life are developing your massive root system? Can you see where you must continue to “fertilize” and “water” yourself even though maybe you can’t see any visible changes today?

Napoleon Hill thought that persistence was such a key to success that he devoted an entire chapter to it in the classic Think and Grow Rich. He writes, “Persistence is a state of mind, therefore it can be cultivated….Before success comes in any person’s life, he is sure to meet with much temporary defeat, and, perhaps, some failure. When defeat overtakes a person, the easiest and most logical thing to do is to QUIT. That is exactly what the majority of people do. More than five hundred of the most successful people this country has ever known, told the author their greatest success came just one step beyond the point at which defeat had overtaken them.”

And that’s worth thinking about.